I just came across ‘The Blueprint of We‘ — a fascinating process for negotiating agreements of all sorts between groups large and small.
This technique forces everyone to recognize and agree on issue before they get thorny, sometimes eliminating them altogether. It uses Google Docs as a collaboration tool for everyone involved to share their input, then everything is merged in a group meeting, in person or remotely with agreement by all parties.
The mission statement from their website, located at http://www.blueprintofwe.com states:
A collaboration process used to build and sustain healthier, more resilient business and personal relationships, making your day-to-day interactions effortless and your time together creative and productive.
When you look at how they go about this, it all clicks together. They’ve broken the workflow up into the following 5 steps, which I am just going to copy straight from the website:
1) 1. The Story of Us
Each person writes what draws them to the relationship and to the situation. It quiets the Safety Brain by laying down positive neural pathways that you can access later.
2. Interaction Styles and Warning Signs
Interaction Styles describe who I am and how I work best. Warning Signs are what I look like when I start to get stressed and what I might need in the moment that I couldn’t possibly ask for. Exchanging this information builds the upward spiral of the Awareness-Learning Cycle.
Core values and non-negotiables, the structure you need to create and sustain this relationship. This is where you mindfully custom design what you want to do and be together. It can include the agreements that traditional contracts cover in terms of what’s to be done or intentioned.
4. Questions to Return to Peace
This is your “What to Do in Case of Fire” Manual. Each person accesses their most emotionally intelligent self, ahead of time, and writes questions, statements and reminders that will create the bridge back to peace when needed.
5. Short and Long-Term Agreements
All parties agree to an amount of time they are willing to go before they address the “pebble in their shoe” and use the Blueprint to get back to a good place. It’s also an agreement to no outright harm if the unimaginable happens.
They make all of the materials necessary to make these agreements available free of charge at http://www.blueprintofwe.com/learnmore.html